Wednesday, November 4, 2009

When Life Changes in a Heartbeat

I heard something yesterday that almost made me fall over. One of my co-workers lost her oldest daughter in a tragic, freak accident. Just weeks away from graduating with her Master's my co-worker's 24 yr old daughter was hit by a car crossing a street and just like that the world has been changed. It hit me on so many levels I just didn't know where to begin.

As a mother and especially a single parent like my co-worker is I can't even begin to understand what she must be going through. I looked at my spawn last night and just felt like dying at the though of anything ever happening to her. As a sister I can only imagine what her other daughter is going through. They were very close so it was not just her sister but also one of her best friends. It's always the amazing ones that are taken too soon.

There really are no words of comfort that can be given; nothing really takes the pain away. Everything that you can think of to say sounds trite but you say it anyway because really what else is there to say? I sent a short note, just to let them know I was thinking of them, praying for them.

It just reminds me how fast life changes, how quickly people that are here can be gone. Please remember to hug those that mean the most to you and if you can't hug them then tell them at least. You never know when things will change.
Oh before I forget, My Group, My Regs, My Innies and all my other friends, I love you guys ((((Hugs))))


  1. Such a sad, tragic, thing to happen. You're right, there's nothing that can be said, so sometimes just being there is all you can do.

    A few weeks ago, Angelique mentioned a study that said that on the happiness scale, married women or women with children were less happy than single women (or something to that effect--I've slept since then.)

    I think it might be because, once we have children, we realize we could lose them. Until I had my son, I thought I could survive just about anything. Once I had him, I realized that losing him would probably kill me.

    Having a baby is (and I quote) like having your heart walk around outside your body.

  2. How awful. Something all too similar happened to a coworker several years ago. Her son died the night after his college graduation - hit by a car crossing the street.

    His family had gone down to FLA to celebrate his achievment (first in his family to get a college degree) and instead, the worst sort of tragedy.

    I'm so very sorry, honey. I honestly can't imagine how horrible this must be.

  3. We just had a tragedy like that in our office. One of the ladies I work with lost her nephew. He was driving with a friend to pick up his cap & gown, got into an accident and he died. The friend survived. He wasn't wearing a seatbelt, and everyone knew it. At the funeral I was told there were hundreds of people, and one of the saddest things was that my coworkers watched these kids get into their cars to drive away, and very few put their seatbelts on.

    I don't know what I'd do if I ever lost my daughter. I couldn't imagine that pain.

    Love you all. (((hugs)))

  4. I <3 you darling. Big hug!

  5. I just read this JayLee. It's hard to imagine a child dying before a parent. Joining with Angelique, EEE, and J-Kat in a BIG HUG and many thoughts!