Well about 11ish or so last night I get a call from Vader. Now really, to my way of thinking unless something is wrong you really shouldn't call that late but I guess no one taught him that. Because I wasn't right by my phone I didn't see it blink (I turn the ringer off when I go to bed)
It seems that he's finally been served the noticed that I filed child support and he wasn't happy about it (big surprise there) So he accused me of avoiding him, like this is such a hard thing to do if I wanted to, I mean really all I would have to do is go about daily life and there problem solved, he's avoided. Then he started in on things from back when we were together, now this is what I don't get about this part. We had this really big long many hour conversation when he got engaged and both agreed to leave all that stuff in the past and I've tried to stick to that, yet he keeps bringing it back up. So in the middle of him going on about how much he's been working and that is why he hasn't seen my spawn, and how he wasn't going to pay me because now he would have lawyer fees and would end up in jail and such, he says to me that I am making my spawn think badly of him and he always thought I was the most evil person alive.
WHAT!?!? I mean first off, I don't say bad things about him to my spawn, she sees what he does and has made her own opinions without any help from me. Second, because I am tired of dealing with him and his excuses on why he can't pay child support I went and did what we should have done in the beginning and just put it through the state I'm evil? Then he hits me with I put my self in this situation and I forced this on him.
In his mind, I got pregnant on purpose to trap him and there is nothing I can say that will make him think otherwise. I don't even try to fight that fight with him anymore, it's pointless. So off on that rant he goes and I just hung up. I wasn't going to try to fight a loosing battle not at what was then 1130 at night. I'm sure that I'll hear from him again and if not oh well, I guess I'll see him at the proceedings for the child support.
For now, I assume it's Game On.....I never wanted to play this game though.
It sucks when you're forced to accept responsibility. Oh well.
ReplyDeleteYou're doing the right thing. Children aren't stupid, if he's a bad guy then your kid is gonna know it without you having to say anything.
Stay strong! I'm proud of you! :-)
Hey Girlie, you changed the background of your blog. Yay! Now I read it easily. I'll go back to the beginning.
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Angelique
AND now I'll have to pay Terri (hands over cash)
ReplyDelete....Now I CAN read it easily.
Angelique
Ya, the other background was annoying even me so it had to go and the only other one I liked was the one that EEE uses so I couldn't use that.
ReplyDeleteIt is going to be a long road...
Hang tough girl! Your doing right to let your child form her own opinions, and by never speaking ill of him, your child will always honestly defend you. Kids know that it's one thing that adults dont believe each other, but it is truly a sad thing when a kid realizes that they are not believed either. Be ready for that ,cause its important that you are there when it happens.
ReplyDeleteThanks sweetie, I appreciate it. He swears I'm turning her against him, I guess it's easier for him to believe that then to accept that he might have something to do with it himself. He actually told her "No one takes care of you but us" meaning him and his wife. When I asked her why she was refusing to see him, she said that she didn't want to see him because he says that to her. Right now he's doing his best to make me feel like I've done something wrong.
ReplyDeleteYou did what you had to do, honey.
ReplyDeleteSome people will live their whole lives as "victims" refusing to take responsibility.
He dug his own hole and he'll have to find his own way out of it.
Kisses to you and to H. She's lucky to have such a thoughtful, strong, understanding mom.
Good for you darling! It was long overdue. I cannot fathom fathers who shirk their responsibilities.
ReplyDeleteHe doesn't believe any of that Jaylee-- he's trying to get to you so you drop it. Don't buckle. I've been there.
ReplyDeleteMy ex actually said all I wanted was a sperm donor. I told him if that was true why would I pick his? It shut him up.
Hang in there girlie. You will hear more vile stuff -- just shut your ears when he speaks.
Terri - I've actually told my ex multiple times that he's not a father, but a sperm donor. He used to tell me all the time that he didn't think that my kid was actually his; I told him the same kinda thing - if there was any possiblilty that she belonged to someone else, why would I stick with such a loser?
ReplyDeleteAccording to him all I want is his dead presidents and to put him in jail thus ruining his and his wife's life. Because that is the most important thing in my life, as if.....
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